Following up on my previous post, I mentioned that I had my reasons of needing to work from home. Yes one of those reasons that I needed more flexibility in my work arrangement is so that I can become more available to my family, especially my young kid and my ailing parents.

Occasionally, some people speak to me about their intention of becoming a Stay At Home Mum (SAHM) to focus on taking care on the kids while relying on the spouse as the sole breadwinner. 

1) Lady, please do not sacrifice yourself for the kid.

Approach this as a personal choice. You want to spend more time with your kids and family because you want to, not because you need to. 

Once you enter the sacrificial mode, you will start to expect something in return. If the receiving party do not appreciate all your efforts and sacrifices, you will feel so disappointed.

You’ve got to love yourself first before you have the capacity to give love.

Some people may not have a choice but to be a SAHM, because there is no one else to take care of the kid. Never mind ignore this point for now and move on to the next point.

2) Do not lose your earning power if you become a SAHM.

靠山山会倒，靠人人会跑。

Spending the money you earned is never the same as spending the money given to you. You do not have to justify your spendings.

有钱才是硬道理。Money can solve a lot of problems in life. Many family problems involves money. Try not to be the undignified party.

Earning power gives you options in life. If you do not have the option to walk away from a terrible situation, then chances are you will have to deal with those kind of situations in some way.

It is just so important to have a fulfilling work to fill your attention with besides your kids and family, lest you become a helicopter mum. It’s annoying.

I am an advocate of working from home. Maybe that makes me a SAHM now as well. If your situation also necessitate the same path, I just want to tell you the two points above. I wish you all the best finding the balance in your life.